When we keep getting played and hurt by men, we start asking ourselves are “all guys are the same”. Are all guy’s players or wanna-be players? My brother is happily married and has only ever had eyes for one woman, so deep down I know there are good guys out there.
I have been following a blog by a guy called Matt, who has recently broken up with his girlfriend. He is going through a lot of heart break and suffering. I decided to ask Matt for a male perspective on dating and getting played.
Are all guy’s the same?
“I’m just going to lead off with saying that the phrase “all guys are the same” has got to be removed from your mind. I am a testament to that it not being true. All people can be assholes. I have cheated before. I have been cheated on. The girl that I just recently broke up with, I would NEVER have even thought about cheating on her or even being with someone else. The idea just never crossed my mind in three years. I was in it for the long run and I would have been true to her for the rest of my life. ”
Do you think you would ever cheat on a girl?
” So, am I capable of cheating? Yes. But when you find the right person, it isn’t something that would happen. If you are a perfect match, neither person would ever want to be with anyone else… it just doesn’t make sense. The only reason that people get played is that they are with someone who isn’t as invested in the relationship as they are. The hardest part about having a real relationship is finding someone who loves you as much as you love them.. otherwise it’s simple. I have been in relationships with girls who were absolutely head over heels in love with me and sadly, I didn’t feel the same way, so they were the ones getting hurt… but recently I was in a relationship that was the opposite. I loved her so much, I would have done anything to make her happy, I would have died for her, and i thought she felt the same, but she didn’t.
Why do you think people get played?
“The only thing I can say is, if you got played, it’s because you were with the wrong person. There is always someone out there who is going to treat you with the respect that you deserve, because everyone deserves to feel happy and loved and when you find that person you will be floating for the rest of your life (and so will they). It’s amazing because having a TRUE trust in someone is beautiful, knowing that they will never hurt you is one of the greatest feelings in the world. When you have it, you know it. Don’t ever be with someone who you are “worried about” or that you are unsure if you can trust them or not… it’s not worth the heartache and lost sleep.
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